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Mkay. So I need help.
« on: April 29, 2014, 01:28:33 am »
Story 1: One day I brought up the topic of fursuits to my parent.  They shrugged it off at first and said they'd never pay for it. So I said I'd pay for it my self. They said that I could never be able to get one cause to my parent they're childish and stupid but to me they're awesome. So I didn't bring it up till Halloween I was ignored. So I stopped bugging.

Story 2:I was following some furry blogs on tumblr a while back. The content was generally ok there were the occasional yiffpics and such. One night I was looking at some Nintendo updates on my phone and my parent took my phone away because it was 2:00 am. She went through my stuff and had the all clear except for me swearing at my older cousin through text and a yiff pic a guy reblogged. So now she thinks that not all but a lot of furries are "sexual deviants" and fursuits are sexual items. So I was told to delete my tumblr and to stay away from "kitty porn". I kind left the fandom for two months and came back. I'm not sure if she still knows I'm a furry so I don't know.

Here are my questions

1. How can I tell her that I'm a furry without being frowned upon.

2. How can i show her that fursuits aren't bad and that I can get one. I've already told her I'm starting a savings jar. All she knows now is it's for a convention
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Re: Mkay. So I need help.
« Reply #1 on: April 29, 2014, 02:34:16 am »
1. Don't. Furry is a hobby, not a sexual identity(or something similar).
2. Wait until you're an adult. I know, waiting sucks. But, sometimes you just have to deal with it. And besides, if your bio is correct, you're 15, definitely not done growing yet.
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Re: Mkay. So I need help.
« Reply #2 on: April 29, 2014, 02:53:35 am »
1. The biggest mistake you could make is emphasizing what the furry fandom isn't to you; don't bring up porn or zoophiles or fursuit sex. Tell her that you for the furry fandom is an online community where you can relate to others, make friends, look at and draw SFW art, read furry literature, attend conventions, etc. She'll probably bring up the adult aspects on her own. Tell her that it's a small part of the furry fandom that you have no interest in. If she still thinks it's all adult stuff, you could possibly compare that there are adult factions within all fan communities; including the likes of Sonic the Hedgehog and My Little Pony, yet they aren't integral to being a member of the community. Promise her that you'll avoid adult content at all costs.

2. Are you both on Facebook? If so, there's plenty of fursuit videos on Youtube that focus on performances in fursuits. Aim for fursuits used in charity work or in stage performances. Post them to Facebook. If not, ask her to watch a short video of one every now and then.
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Re: Mkay. So I need help.
« Reply #3 on: April 29, 2014, 09:13:16 am »
1: Tell her about what the fandom IS and not what it ISN'T. Like the others ahve said, tell her about the art, literature, music, and cons. Show her a con vid or, like Marcus said, post some con vids on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. These will give her an inside look at what the fandom is.

2: Again, like Marcus said, show her con/fursuit vids. That's are why people post those. Or you can always go with what Swift said and wait till you're older. It's kinda what I've gotta do considering my parents hate furries. :/
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